To commit or to not commit (to yourself, goals, future)

It can be so easy to think of all of these amazing ideas and plans for our lives and ourselves whether that be for our health, our jobs, holidays, families, etc but is it really that easy to stick to?

Simply put, no it's not.

And why not? Because we all have the best of intentions otherwise we would never have thought about it in the first place.

Here are some reasons why you might not stick to your goals/plans:

1. They might not be your goals! You might be piggybacking off of what someone else wants for themselves or what they might want for you. Either way, these probably aren't your goals so no wonder you don't feel motivated to do it!

2. Life has it's way of being chaotic. It is so hard to put new things into place when your day has gone down the drain and all your plans to get to that new gym class or get home and cook or go do a big food shop has gone out of the window.

3. Returning to old habits, even when we know that they will never bring us the outcomes that we want, are always easier than creating new habits.

But, these things should never be enough to stop us, even when motivation is at an all time low. So here is what you are going to do:

1. Figure out what your dream life is like. What are you like, your home, your partner, all of it. Figure it out and get clear.

2. Once you have all of that figured out, find some daily habits or practices that will bring you that little bit closer to your goals. It doesn't matter what they are, if you think they will help then that is all the reason you need to do them.

3. Plan your day with your new habits inter-grained within your day. You can have them in the morning, throughout the day, in the evening or a mixture but what is important is that you make it work for you.

4. Track these habits. See when you stick to them best and when you don't. Find the things, feelings, thoughts that are in common and then work on these things.

5. Never and I mean NEVER rely on motivation. It is a feeling and feelings come and go as they please. Instead, turn inwards to find discipline. This requires self accountability and self awareness so give yourself time to learn this skill.

I always think its funny that whenever we tell someone else that we will do something, more often than not, we will be there without hesitation whether we want to or not. We never do this for ourselves though!

We will say ' I will get up at 6 tomorrow and go to the gym before work'

' I will get up at 6 tomorrow and make myself breakfast'

' I will get up at 6 tomorrow and go to work early'

' I will get up at 6 tomorrow and walk the dog before work'

Whatever your 6 am plan is, even if it's planned for 6pm, we all see that time on the clocks and choose comfort instead.

So I want you to remember that comfort will never give you what you want, it only gives you what you already have. You have to be different to be different. You have to show up everyday as the person you want to be.

Imagine who they are and how they walk and talk and speak and how they commit to themselves.

How they do it, is how you will do it.

What you want is never too silly or stupid or unreasonable. If you want it, then that is enough of a reason to go and get it. So go and show up as that person and commit to yourself. Follow through with the things you said you where going to do even on the day it's tough and you don't want to.

What you do today will decide your tomorrow so commit to yourself today like you already have what it is that you want.

It is you vs you baby!

Abi x